I'm not able to deal with conflict.
The very idea of conflict upsets people. At one time, we thought only timid people avoid confrontation — that more assertive people are able to manage it without getting upset, and aggressors actively seek it out because they think conflict is fun. But we've conducted some informal studies over the years and discovered that almost everyone hates conflict, even hard-nosed, seemingly belligerent individuals who never seem to shy away from a fight.
A simple definition of conflict is found in Webster's New Collegiate Dictionary. It is, "the struggle resulting from incompatible or opposing interests, wants, needs, or desires." If this is indeed the case, it's pretty obvious that you're going to encounter it everywhere. Because no one's interests and needs coincide with everyone else's all the time. The state of conflict is a normal state; you can't eliminate it from your life, nor should you try. Sooner or later you're going to find yourself in conflict with somebody else. So, because it's part of the natural order, it's up to you to manage conflict to the comfort and satisfaction of all the parties involved, including your own.
